I have been dating and now living with my b/friend of nine months. He’s a great guy – works hard, helps around the house even cooks. I’m not naive – I know that things change over the months when you’re dating someone. I did not expect him to be the exact same person I saw on that first date. I feel like I’ve gone into this with my eyes open pretty much. My biggest complaint is the way he talks to me. We are both 40 and have been married and dated before. I’ve been divorced 10 yrs, him for 5yrs. When we “talk” now he uses this constant whiney baby voice and says things like calling me “sugar buger bear” and everything ends in some form of “ey” – can you skwatch my backey, rub my toesies, wub my neckey, fix me a snackey”…I’m about ready to barf!! I don’t mind cute nicknames between couples. I think its endearing. But after a long day at work – two jobs 7 days a week – I don’t want to come home to a 40yr old child. (sigh)
I know I need to say something, I am just not sure how to say it without hurting his feelings. I realize that he is trying to be sweet. I just wish he would tone it down. There are other issues too – no romance, no nights out together (in nine months we’ve gone on 2 official dates), no sex unless I beg for it. He calls “date night” our weekly trip to grab a burger and grocery shop. I’m starting to feel like I jumped too soon and really wish I had my apartment back sometimes. I don’t think I’m ready to scrap this and I hate the thought of moving and starting over. But, I don’t know how to fix it either…. any suggestions?
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