It’s very rare for two people to feel exactly the same way about each other at exactly the same time, all the time. So don’t worry if you don’t feel the same way she does at the same time she does. In fact, you can feel that she’s your soulmate and that she may not reciprocate those feelings — [i]and[/i] it doesn’t mean you can’t have a long-term commitment. 🙂 Sometimes soulmates are children or friends — not spouses. And, yes, sometimes a soulmate is even an ex with whom things didn’t work out. But soulmates aren’t necessarily, always spouses. So, if you can accept the fact that you and she may have different feelings for each other, but that you’re committed to each other — you can move forward in the relationship, happily.
The problem is that she’s telling [i]you[/i] all this, when she should be debriefing with her best friends, not her partner. Since she’s not interested in acting on her feelings, it’s curious that she’s telling them to you, hopefully knowing you well enough to understand this will hurt you. She may just be a sensitive and dramatic person who feels that the truth is more important than keeping the relationship going, and that the truth will ultimately bring the two of you closer together. Or…. she may just be selfish and not caring about your feelings as much as she’s interested in unburdening her own onto you.
You can talk to you about how this hurts you because you love her so deeply you want to be the only one she wants…. or you can decide that this isn’t a phase she’s going through and something she’s working out, and instead, it’s her letting you know that you’ll never be enough for her. 😕
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