My hubby has no sexual desires he listens to his parents What do I do to get my husband back?

[Pretty]

Dear april.
U dont believe me true its cause im confused and unable to decide and you can see through it. Dear u being my advisor i wanna tell u that I didnot show up or call while he was at work I texted him over facebook messenger. And if he was so busy he shouldnt have read it going to his facebook account. He basically accused me for sending him the text. The text wrote “I Love U and the things that has been happening is hurting me. Please come down once so we can all sit and talk and solve our problems.”
Later in the evening that day his dad calls with him in conference to my dad to say I am disturbing him.
Facebook texts are meant to be read when people are free not busy hence I said I know he made fake complaint.
Yes recently i thought of meeting him where he lives in a quarter provided by his office. But I would talk at his house not his office. Its mines area so people get quarters to live nearby the mines.
Yes I made a wrong choice. His needs and mine do not match. I agree but he lied to me all the while. He hid about his having varicocele and being incapable I found out in a very very old prescription while dusting the cupboard. When a person has any sickness they go to doctor he refuses to accept he has any problem. I had cleared to him of who I am and how I want to live that I also wanna do a job. He himself assured me he is different and we both think alike and have same perspective towards life. Now it has changed. Regarding me my fault is that I got sick with TB and also I told him to go to a doctor. A partner is supposed to stand with you in health and sickness. How do I know he wont leave me if I go fat or have wrinkles someday or if I catch some disease again. I’m scared April. I’m scared that what if I made compromises and its a waste. I’m in a state I do not know what to do. Heart and mind are at war. I have feelings for him I cant deny. And using abusive language is his habit I had tried to correct it but he keeps using this kind of language and it hurts to hear such words for myself or my parents.
I’m not playing victim but iv suffered 8whole months stress levels gone high not being able to sleep. I want him but this version of him I want to change him back. I want the guy whom I had loved. I’m confused and broken. And I’m not ready maybe to sacrifice my job and parents and my life to be scared when next he would leave me. I’m scared April.

[Pretty]

I want all well but I’m scared. Please tell me how to get him to change and be understanding. Give some steps to follow when ill be with him.

[Pretty]

I want to talk to him to know why he is behaving this way. I want to ask him to tell me if iv been wrong somewhere or hurt him. But he doesn’t wanna talk. Shall I go to him myself and talk or would it be negative to do so.

[April Masini]

Your job is to change yourself, not him. You refuse to take that advice, and that’s why you’re stuck. 🙁

I’ve given you plenty of advice here that you’ve rejected. I’m sorry. I can’t help you any more because it doesn’t appear that you want to do the work required to make any changes.

I wish you good luck.

[caseyghatchell]

Hello Pretty, the problem you’re facing is almost similar to me. The only difference is my husband is supporting me all time, since his parents dumped us from their house. We are now living separately and things are good now. For you I’m feeling sorry, because this type of situation is very sad. And it hurts a lot. Don’t worry, be strong, and you tried your best.

If you husband is ignoring you, don’t lose hope. Get rid of him, find a job because busy, it’ll help you become stable in life. One day he’ll return to you, if your husband truly loves you.

[April Masini]

That’s really good advice. Thank you for that!

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