[relationshipa1]

So this will be kind of a long post so bare with me.

So to start my story off I came back to work after having left for 3 months (another story). Well I came back to find out that H. (not putting her full name on here) was now single after getting out of a relationship of 2 years. So I decide to ask her for her phone number which she gives me and we proceeded to text here and there. So about 2 weeks after this she starts dating this guy (They had dated for awhile a couple of years back). This had me a little down, but the relationship only lasted about a week and a half. The guy ended up breaking up with her over text and then getting engaged with some other girl like 2 days later. So about 2 weeks after that happened I decided to make a move and ask her out. She said no, that she likes me but isn’t ready for a relationship yet. I thought that she was letting me down easy, but since that we have started talking a lot more (at least once a day). We have gone out to the movies a couple times (once alone, and once with her family). We’ve also just hung out by ourselves like for lunch and such, about 4 or 5 times.

Now that I’ve gotten the back story out of the way here is my problem. I just don’t know what she wants. I mean I flirt with her and she flirts back which is a good sign. But i’m worried that if I try to make a move or ask her out again i’ll just scare her off and she won’t talk to me anymore. Or if I wait too long I’ll get stuck as just a friend. Anyone got any advice?

[April Masini]

It sounds to me like she likes you, and you’re paralyzed by your fear of losing control. I’d advise you to get over your fear, and see if she really does like you as a boyfriend, the only way possible — by asking her out and pursuing a romantic relationship with her. I know that rejection is painful, but it’s part of life, and frankly, you haven’t even gotten it from her yet!

Understandably, she’s healing from a long term relationship break up, and then a short term dating disappointment, but if she’s gone to the movies with you, flirts with you, talks to you at work, and has lunch with you at work, I’d tell you to go for it!

If she does balk and decide she doesn’t want to date you, you’ll live, and you’ll know that she’s not the one for you. But if she doesn’t balk, and is interested and wants to date you, then you’ll have found out something nice!

So, go for it! 🙂

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