Need to get over him…

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I hope I can explain this without dragging on too much…
So, I’m 23 years old but I’m still very much a teenager. I got extremely depressed when I was 13 and dropped out of high school. I stayed very sheltered until only a year ago. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve never even been a date or been kissed! So i finally got a job and started making friends….and got a major crush on a co-worker. I’ve never really had a crush this big before and I really wanted him to like me. Eventually the entire store that I work at knew that I liked this guy (including him). I became friends with a small group of people, some I’m closer to than others. It’s been a year since I started liking him but my crush hasn’t subsided at all. Because I was closed in for such a long time I don’t always know how to deal with things most teenagers have already dealt with. I REALLY like this guy still and I really don’t want to anymore. Recently my friend started dating him and it really hurt. She’s not one of my closest friends but she’s still a friend and we talked about it (after she initially lied about it) and at the time I thought I was okay. I don’t think I am though. Obviously this guy knows I like him and he obviously doesn’t like me. Sometimes I hate myself for thinking so badly about myself. How I’m not as pretty or why I just wasn’t good enough. I really need help trying to get past all this. And just to get over a guy that doesn’t care about me.
Sorry for talking so much

[April Masini]

You’re suffering from rejection — and that’s part of life. 😉 The best way to get over it, is to realize that not everyone you like is going to like you back, and vice versa. When that rejection does come, instead of seeing it as a bad thing, consider that it’s actually a gift that points you away from closed doors. Stop looking to your unrequited crush, and instead, see what else is out there for you! If your friend who’s dating the guy is a big part of your life, consider a benign disconnect, where you spend time with others, and cultivate new friendships, new interests, and, yes, new crushes!

Hope that helps.

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