[Saraho_06]

Hi April, I wrote to you a few months back in a thread called Mixed Signals about a guy who cancelled a date with me. SInce then that boy has done a little bit better of a job of hanging out with me. we arent going on dates but he makes sure that I will be hanging out in our group of mutual friends on a somewhat regular basis. We are not dating but sometimes he sends me texts at 2am asking if im awake still. I never am but this last time he did it I asked if he was alright because it isnt like him to text me so late and he said “I couldnt sleep last night and had you on my mind” i asked him what specifically he had on his mind and he has not answered me or brought it up it has been two days and we have talked several times since this incident.

I think that there is definitely a sexual overtone but i dont want to take it the wrong way. This guy has had plenty of opportunities to make a move if he wanted to but he hasnt. I cant tell if he is just trying to sleep with me or if he is interested in me in a different way. Regardless I will not sleep with him unless we are in a committed relationship.

I guess Im just wondering if there are certain ways that guys behave if they just want to sleep with you vs. if they actually are interested in you as a person?

Thanks again! your advice is always really helpful!

[April Masini]

I don’t remember your question of several months ago, and as I tell all my readers, if you want me to address an ongoing situation, please post your new question as a reply to your old string of posts. This moves the ENTIRE string to the front of the queue and allows me and every other reader to see your entire history and give you the BEST advice possible.

For now, I can respond to what you’ve written me here: The 2 a.m. call was what’s known as a booty call. Guys who are looking for sex will call you late at night to see if you’re game. 😉 That’s what you got. A booty call, plain and simple.

There are lots of ways to tell if a man wants to date you, and you can read them ALL in Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download here: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. In addition, in this book you can also learn how to find, get and keep Mr. Right, so it would be worth your while to buy and download this book!

Bottom line is that if a man wants a relationship with you, he’ll ask you out on a date. Without knowing the history of your relationship with this guy, it sounds like he’s not really interested if he’s had opportunity and never followed through. The 2 a.m. call without a history of dating sure sounds like he’s only interested in sex.

I hope that helps. I also hope you’ll join me on Facebook. You can become a free member of AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=110265355684755&ref=mf[/url].

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