I’ve known my guy for 10 months. Two months ago I told him I wanted to take a break since he was not ready for a “relationship”. He was upset.
When we first met, he was unemployed and our time together was spent mostly “inside” dates, going shopping, having dinner at his home or mine. During our time together he felt bad because he could not afford to take me out because his savings were running very low. But he said once he got his first paycheck, he was going to take me out to a nice dinner. He also told me on a few occasions the reason he wasn’t ready for any relationship was because of his being unemployed and had nothing to offer me. Each date he pushed me away from getting intimate and said, “I’m not ready”. Two weeks ago he found a job which he likes very much.
In the past we spoke every day on the phone. Now since our ‘break” two months ago, I’ve cut it back to just 2x a week. And I do not call him first. The last two conversations he told me he missed being with me but I did not respond to it…just listened.
The other night he left a message saying, “I hope you’ll do me the honor of having dinner with me.” My question is: Do I go out to dinner with him? How do I know if he’s ready for that ‘relationship” now? I do love him and I know he loves me but i also know he’s scare of being hurt. I haven’t been out with anyone else but I’m keeping my options open.
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