[MysteryWoman]

I was out with my boyfriend on NYE, and he got really drunk. After he fell asleep in bed, his iPhone beeped with a text. Seeing it was from another girl, I took the phone downstairs and read the messages. It went like this (I’ve written his in capitals).

11.55pm: HAPPY NEW YEAR, SEXY XXX
12.10am: HAPPY NEW YEAR, SEXY XXX
12.17am: Happy new year. Thought you’d forgotten about me x
12:30am: NO CHANCE XX MSG U TOMORROW NIGHT BABY XXXX
12:45am: Are you having a good night? x
1:15am: YES XXX
1:15am: HMM, MSG U TOMORROW THEN XXX
1:30am: HMM, MSG U TOMORROW THEN XXX
2:30am: Sorry just got home x

My first impression was that he wasn’t cheating, he was just drunk and flirty. I then read through his WHOLE phone and only found lovely things about me – his telling all his friends how much he loves me and wants us to get married. ?!

When he woke up the next day, I told him what had happened and that I’d read EVERYTHING And he wasn’t angry, he was upset and horrified he’d hurt me. I then finished the relationship but he has pursued me for 2 weeks: sending flowers, cards, emails, texts, a letter, presents… I’ve ignored everything but finaly agreed to meet him for a coffee.

I don’t know what to do! He says he’ll delete her from his contacts in front of me, he has offered to arrange for me to meet her, talk to his friends, anything i want. I don’t know what to do!

Yes, this is the same guy I wrote to you about late last year.

Bad bits: we had a row about this girl last year, as he lied about a text he’d sent her.

[April Masini]

I’m sorry to do this to you, but I have a request! Would you please re-post this question as a “reply” to your last string of posts since they’re about the same relationship? That way the whole thing is in one place and we can all weigh in and help you out with better knowledge of the situation!

Look forward to hearing from you again on this! 😀

[MysteryWoman]

OK, I have done!

Update: I saw him briefly yesterday for a coffee. I don’t think he cheated on me – I just don’t. I might be daft, but I just don’t.

I suggested we take a month’s break, no contact, so I could see how I felt. He’s terrified I’ll discover life’s better without him, or I’ll find someone else, or forget about him.

I just don’t know what to do! I just want us to get married and be together, really. Together every day, companiably.

I’ve asked everyone’s advice — everyone’s telling me he’s a twat (except for my mum, who loves him)… Help!

[April Masini]

Please post this question on the same thread as your previous question, as requested! 😀 It’s much easier to answer it that way.

[MysteryWoman]

I already did! 🙂 I said, I did it when you asked me to! Really looking forward to your answer.

[April Masini]

Got it. Answered you there. 😀

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