Well if it makes you feel any better, I have a similar problem too though my parents are not too over controlling but still controlling somewhat. I used to feel the same with that my parents still treat me like a 15 year old even though I’m an adult.
I still get a bit of that sometimes nowadays. When I was stuying in the States and are away from my parents, I had freedom in a lot of my life except financial. I can study whatever I want, do whatever I want, wear whatever I want. But once I was done with my studying and have to move back home to my parents, I’m back to being that adult they treat as a 15 year old. Thing is, as long as you’re still living under their roof or are financially dependent on them, you’re going to have to deal with it until the day you move out or become financially independent.
The best thing to do and not let that get to you for now is to just ignore it and live life the way you want to. For now, don’t completely disobey them because you never know what the consequences are. You don’t want to defy them and they end up cutting you off or disowning you or something. Try to reach a compromise or some leeway in things you do and the way you live life now.
In some ways, you’re in a better position than I am. From what it sounds, you are capable of moving out and getting your own place. I’m not yet as I’m still financially dependent on my parents. I have a hard time finding a job and so far only have a part-time job that earns little. I still got to save a lot before I can move myself back to North America. But you, you can just move out. As April says, you’re not a kid. You’re an adult and your parents don’t dictate your life anymore. Question is whether you got the guts to defy your parents and actually move out.
Good luck.
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