It sounds like you want her as a girlfriend, not a friend. If that’s true, then you have to refrain from any friend zone behavior. Once you get into the friend zone, it’s going to be very difficult to get out — especially since you’ve known each other since you were teenagers. It’s going to be too easy to revert back to friends — with you unhappy for the loss of the girlfriend. 😕 It’s clear, like [b]meowmix[/b] wrote, that you both like each other, but your concern that she’s going to flip flop and not commit and give you the security that you want, is legitimate.
My advice is to kindly let her know that this friend situation isn’t going to work for you. Then don’t be friends. 😳 You’re both new (legal) adults, and I think she’s wanting to see what else is out there for her. It’s not you — it’s a normal desire to want to test the waters. My advice is to accept that she has this desire, and hold your nose while she’s doing it. I know this isn’t what you want, but you have no choice here. If, around the holidays, you’re interested in asking her out on a date, then at that time, you should do so. If she wants to date you as a girlfriend, then maybe she’ll have tested the waters and realized what she had and want you back. But if not, you have to accept that this relationship ran it’s course — for one of you, anyway, and in the long run, that means for both of you.
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