It sounds like your husband got interested in porn right after you had your first child. That’s a clue that the porn was more of a substitute for your postpartum sex life, than it was about him cheating or being addicted. You were probably not having the same type of sex life you had before kids because you were recovering from the birth, exhausted from nursing or being up at night with the baby, and you had a big weight gain which made you feel not so sexy or confident — and maybe he was using the porn so as not to bother you, or because you weren’t interested in sex. This is all normal and it doesn’t mean he was cheating or the he’s addicted. I understand that you’re hurt and angry about your sex life changing at the same time you’re finding his porn use offensive, and you’re probably overwhelmed with two toddlers barely nine months apart. You must be exhausted!
Instead of getting mad at him, which hasn’t moved things in a positive way, why not try to get your sex life back. 😉 It’s easy to point the finger at him, but a lot more challenging — and productive! — to try and work on the relationship and do your part to show him that you’re interested in sex with him and you want to get your sex life back on track. See if that helps! 😉
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