The kind of healing your doing takes time, so don’t beat yourself up because things aren’t going exactly the way you want in exactly the moment you want them. Allow the healing process to happen.
In the meantime, what you can do is spice things up in the bedroom to try and entice him and give him the gift of your sexual self so he doesn’t perform out of a sense of duty, and you don’t feel like he’s just performing his duties, but instead, is aroused and excited by being with you. I have written a book that will help you a lot called Romantic Date Ideas, and you can download it here [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url]. I think it’s going to give you a lot of creative suggestions to start heating up your sex life again.
In addition, understand that he is working hard, and stress zaps sexual energy, so you might want to take care of him in other ways, too, like giving him a massage to release stress and bringing him a cocktail while you listen to him vent about his day, all the while you’re wearing something enticing and sexy. In other words, give yourself the gift of feeling sexy and acting sexy, and give him the gift of listening, understanding, and presenting yourself to him in a sexy wife way.
I hope that helps. Let me know how things go.
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