[relationshipa1]

Hi,
My boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch. He warns me recently that he has
commitment issues, and he wants me to know that one day we might break up. But right now
he wants to stay together and work things out, and that he still loves me. I am thinking
that one day he will break up with me, so should I break up with him first. I am not
satisfied with his answers. I told him that we need space and he needs to think things
through, but I doubt he will. So what should I do? I don’t want to get hurt, he used to
act different, he wants to see me more and he would talk about the future with me. But
now, he doesn’t do any of that anymore. We also haven’t seen each other a lot this past
two weeks. I am a little tormented by the whole thing. Is there something I can do?? I
don’t want to have to wait around for him to break up with me.
Lindsey

[April Masini]

The best thing you can do is to take him at his word rather than wondering if he means something other than he says. The problem you’re having is that he’s giving you a very shaky picture of his feelings for you. It would be hard for me to advise any woman to invest themselves completely in a man who didn’t completely appreciate and want them.

My advice to you is to play the field while dating him since he seems to be lacking any certainty about his feelings for you other than, he’s just not sure. Since you say you haven’t seen each other much in the past couple weeks, this is a perfect entree for you to start looking at other men, and flirting with the ones you like. If you’re not just sitting around, then you won’t feel like you’re a passive victim in the relationship.

I hope that helps! 🙂

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