sex drive change please help

[josh]

hi there my name is george im 20 years old and im in what id like to think is a happy relationship, my girlfriend fulfills all of my needs and then some.. including sex we both loved to have sex in the beginning of our now 2 and a half year relationship but since we moved in together she has lost major interest in me to the point where before we would have sex daily annd now its 2 times a week however those 2 times a week i dont get the feeling she actually wants to have sex, but just doing it to please me ,the concern i have is the fact that i work long hours from 6 in the morning to 6 or 7 at night and we recently moved into a town that her ex flame still lives, in the beginning of our relationship i snooped through her phone one night and caught her flirting and talking about having sex with him, i confronted her about this with a simple decision me or him, she chose me but now that we live in this guys home town i fear he is coming for visits well im out at work. i realize i dont have a leg to stand on with this assumption but id like to hear some one elses opinion.

[April Masini]

The reality is that if someone is hellbent on cheating, you’re not going to be able to stop them. There are temptations everywhere. But what keeps relationships solid and above board is the commitment and integrity people have towards themselves, each other, and their communities. If your girlfriend isn’t committed to you, it’s really better for you to find out now then five years from now.

When you said that she was flirting with him about sex, I’m not sure if she was being sassy or really coming on to him with a promise of sex. If it’s the former, some people are just flirts and it doesn’t mean they’ll do anything about it. But if she’s flirting as a precursor to dating him then you’ve got competition.

My advice is that you live up to the challenge, and be the best boyfriend you know how to be. It sounds like her sex drive changed when you moved in together, and frankly, living with someone isn’t always as romantic as it can be cracked up to be. It’s important to try and put the romance and the sizzle back in the relationship. It’s easy to take people for granted when you’re living with them. Check yourself on that front.

But if she isn’t mature enough to handle a live in relationship, and is more interested in the mystique and allure of someone who isn’t sharing a bathroom with her and leaving dirty, smelly clothes on the floor and dishes in the sink — then that’s a problem that goes to her readiness to be in a live in relationship.

Let me know how this resonates for you.

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