She ended 1.5 year worth of relationship and reason being told is my behavior. What should I do to get her back?

[Rajeel24]

We were together for 1 year and 5 months until she started to demand for a break up last month. She hasn’t been talking to me since the last month nor have told me personally why she ended things except that she just don’t want any relationship with anyone.
With the help of her friends I was able to get to know the reasons which are :
1. She says my behavior made her go away from me. I was possessive, over protective etc.
And my anger was somewhat violent.
2. She can’t take the commitment, responsibility of the relationship anymore with her studies now
3.I have objection on her almost everything, she’s fed up of this.
Where as I just behaved such way when she did something bad for herself and would be harming.
Otherwise she herself has accepted I have treated her the best way someone can
Now that we have ended up things last month on 25th…. We haven’t talked since where as we are at the classes together twice in a week.
She has left other 2 classes maybe to reduce interaction with me, blocked me from her family Facebook I’d, doesn’t use her private I’d anymore, doesn’t Even look at me in the class.. But when asked by her friends that if she would get engaged with me next year , so she said ” Yes I will surely “

Both of us are hurt and depressed on it, she seems to be good on the outside but not inside.
My question is,
Should I give her a little space and don’t try to talk to her for sometime and then later on ask her to come back when she starts realizing she did wrong by ending things?
Or should I do something else, please suggest what to do.

[April Masini]

You’re 17 and she’s 16 and you’ve been dating for a year and a half prior to her breaking up with you. Now you want her back. I think that you do have a chance to get her back but you have to really listen to what she’s saying and the reasons she broke up with you. If any of them are true, then you have an opportunity to make some changes 🙂. For instance… if you truly were possessive, overprotective and violent — those are deal breakers in a relationship, and whether you’re with her or someone else, you should focus on making some changes. If she truly felt that the relationship was interfering with her studies, then you should focus on supporting her studies and make sure that any relationship you try to forge with her, doesn’t interfere. Why not invite her to study together? Or bring her coffee when she’s got a lot of homework to do? 😉 And because she may have felt that you were critical of her decisions — instead of being defensive and suggesting that you were just trying to take care of her, let her make her own decisions and be supportive and interested in what she learns from them. It’s easy to think you’re right about things — but when being right causes a breakup, it may be better for the relationship to be wrong! 😉

So, focus on the balance of giving her space and wooing her back. 😎 Send or give her little gifts without asking for anything in return. Ask her how her studies are going and show interest in her and her interests. And by doing those things, if and when you break through and you think she’s receptive, ask her out and see if you can get things going again, and see if you can make the changes in your own behavior that will insure success. 😀

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