She knows I like her – I know she likes me !!

[davidalvenz]

Hi everybody,I’m feeling so frustrated over this girl.
i broke up with my ex few months ago (7 years relationship) and I got to know this new girl who I feel really liking her. she was so much interested 2 months ago when we met and she was the one who was texting me all the time and we were having fun, to be honest I was not much interested at the begining but after a while I got to really like her! and it even turned to love in some point!

Until the time (a month ago) that I was so stupid and told her that I’m falling for her !!!!! (I was stupid I know!!! )
and from that moment she totally turned away and tried to hide her feeling, tried to show she is busy and so on and so on..
we used to kiss and have fun before that, we were really having fun ,..but from that moment until now she is totally ignoring me..ignorning my textx, replying so late..and maybe pretending that she is ignoring…but I’m sure about something…she likes me!!!! she definitely likes me..
month ago or so..we talked about this and she told me she is not after relationship for now..because she has broken up with her ex like few months ago just like me…I understood it and wanted to give her time..and I told her that I will be around ! and she accepted that…but she is really ignoring…and she is driving me nut!!!! seriously sometime I think of calling her and tell her that I’m letting you go!!!!

I don’t know what to do..
I have surprised her a few times…and tried to be somebody different..I try to make her smile and try to be funny..she is so up and down..she said I’m feeling down! and I need time and blah blah…

but anyways I’m feeling being ignored and I don’t know what to do!!!! I just know she liked /likes me but she is now so messed up !!! up..down..
she is driving me crazy!!! If i did not like her I would call her and finish it rightaway! then I would love to see her face after that phone call !!!

damn it!!!
I’m so frustrated !!!

cheers,
david

[April Masini]

It sounds like the relationship took a turn in the second month of dating. I know you just came out of a long term (7 year relationship), and you may not be used to the rhythm of dating, so you’re frustrated, thinking that you’re going to replace the last long term relationship with another one, right away. Time for a reality check! Dating is a process and you get to know each other during that process. Whether you came on too strong, or she isn’t mature enough to handle your feelings, or else maybe you’ve misread her interest — the reality is she’s not as hot on you as she was during the first month.

Read Date Out of Your League, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], for a refresher course on getting the girl. 😉 You’ll learn how to pursue women and when playing hard to get works — and when it doesn’t.

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go — and please read the book!

You can follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1154528031[/url]. 😀

[davidalvenz]

Hi April,

thanks very much, I guess you are right! I’m not used to these things, I have been out of this process for 7 to 8 years! and I should get to learn some things! do you think this book is worth to read?

cheers
david

[davidalvenz]

Ah I forgot…the thing is that should I put timing on this? I have already put more than 2 months, from now I’m gonna charge another month and that;s it! then I will let her go and then you should not miss watching her face..because she likes me but she is playful and I’m not into games!!! in one month I’m gonna say bye…I’m not gonna see her again after that month!!!
Haven’t been serious like now in my whole life!!

david

[April Masini]

Yes — I definitely think this book is worth the read, which is why I recommended it. You’ve been out of the dating game, and you need to read this. If you order it now, it will download automatically and you can start reading tonight! 😀 Here’s the link again: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. Get it and read it. 🙂

[davidalvenz]

My last couple of questions before i jump into the book is that i go mad when she doesn’t reply my textx or reply so late… What should i do in these cases? And what should i write her? She sometimes is also feeling down and does not want to talk or text back… this situation tells me that she might want to stop this? I have asked her few times and she said no … She said : if i don’t want you to be around i would ot reply or call or i would ask you to stop…

[April Masini]

I think it’s a better idea if you read the book first and then let’s talk about any questions you have after that. Date Out of Your League, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url] is a great book for all the questions you have — that’s why I specifically recommended it for you (you’ll see I don’t recommend books for everyone, and those I do recommend books for, I’m specific about what I think will help their individual situation). Given your not having been out and about in the dating world for seven years now, you could really use this information as well as the tips and advice in it. 😉 The book downloads automatically, so you can buy it and start reading immediately. It’s an easy read, and you’re going to get so much out of it, your questions may disappear, or, they may be more sophisticated or nuanced. I’m really happy to help you further, but I think the best thing for you to do is read the book and then let’s talk more. 😀

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