[Jas0nx420]

So theres this girl Victoria right.. that i’m like totally in love with, and have been for really almost 2 years now. Anyways, we first met at work.. where we started talking and soon became really close friends.. I mean, close enough to the point where we would often even cuddle and sleep together(no sex).. after about a year of this I did something that in hindsight, probably wasn’t the best idea. I just couldn’t control myself! I basically spilled my guts and told her how I felt. There was this sort of awkward feeling in the air.. and in not so few words- told me that she really only saw me as a friend. OUCH. I acted like it was ok no problem, but this really screwed my head up, and I noticed after I said that we were still real close but she began to distance herself a little.

So at this point im in this sort of paniced frenzy. I start scouring the internet for advice or guidance.. and I came across this one website … Which is this online dating/attraction learning course type thing. So long story short I wound up signing up for it… Much of the info, lessons, and things it teaches you didn’t quite click or make sense to my logic at the time. But after my amazing screw-up.. I was jus like fuck it, nothing much to lose. So I started employing these methods.. And long story short.. this shit worked fucking INCREDIBLY.. I can’t quite explain it, this girl just ate it all up. All I can say.. at least for me, everything we think females want, or like, or what makes sense.. you can bet is almost the EXACT opposite. It’s incredible. Women are really strange ill-logical creatures.. no offense to any girls out there. Anyways, after a couple months of this going back and forth we eventually wound up in a relationship, and even had sex a couple times.. it was amazing and so surreal it all happened so fast… so onto my question-

I guess with my newfound “game” .. I got a little too ahead of myself and wound up meeting this girl off myspace and ended up having sex with her.. Then one day Vic was at my house and I left my myspace page open.. she went snooping and discovered EVERYTHING.. I don’t even know what I was thinking when I decided to go off and do this.. but she confronted me, I was dumbfounded lost for words, she smacked me SO hard across my face, told me she hated me n never wanted to speak 2 me again.. then left. I truly am sorry I could give a shit about this other girl. For the past week I’ve been trying to contact her every day and shes COMPLETELY avoiding me.. it’s driving me fucking insane. I had everything I ever wanted and totally fucked it up .. Is there any way to turn this thing around?? =( Help!

[April Masini]

You blew it. After winning her reluctant heart over, you cheated on her, and she found out. Now she doesn’t want to date you or talk to you. It’s hard to blame her.

What you need to do is give her time and during that time, move on with your own life. If over the course of time she thinks you may be trustworthy for another go round, then you’d best on super good behavior. But if not, you need to just move on and learn your lessons for next time.

If the woman you just lost hadn’t been so hard to win over, you may have had a shot at getting her back, but because she had to overcome her own hesitance about going out with you after being friends for so long, I think that the damage is probably irreparable.

If you’re really excited about your newfound dating skills, I think the best strategy for you is to play the field right now, rather than leading someone into thinking you’re ready for monogamy.

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