Should I be worried? My wife recently gave me her phone to look up something, and I knew she had looked it up a few hours beforehand, so I went to her History tab. When I was searching, I discovered that she is a frequent pornography viewer. I wanted to see what kind of videos she watched–to see what turns her on. I didn’t like what I saw however. Every few days she would watch porn videos immediately after or immediately before googling pictures and news stories of a guy in our hometown–almost as if he were a regular feature in her porn viewing. I know the guy fairly well. He’s a professor at our local college. I confronted her about it, but she says it was just a coincidence that her searches of him were adjacent to her viewing of porn, even though she would return to the same picture or story of the guy up to 15 times in a row. Also, she looked up his contact info in the online white pages. I want to believe her. She has never given me reason before to mistrust her. I’m deeply in love with her. I hope she’s telling me the truth or at worst that she has some strange ifatuation with the guy but has never acted on it. I also feel bad that I snooped on her. I shouldn’t even know this info, but I do and can’t get it out of my head. Can you tell me your opinion as to what I should do? She says she’s done discussing it and that my bringing it up is hurting our relationship. I want to forget it and move on but I’m having a hard time doing that. Do I need a psychiatrist, a marriage counselor, or simply time to put it behind me? Thanks in advance for any help you can offer.
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