[PAOK]

So there’s this girl who’s really sweet and maybe shy. We would bump into each other at work and chat a bit, but not more than a minute or so because it always was very busy (no flirting was involved) Her last day at work she left some important documents on my desk and left. When I finally got around to them I discovered she had left a small piece of paper with her name and number on it. I was actually pretty surprised because this had never happened before to me.

So after a few days I called her up and we went for coffee. It went well, but it seemed I would initiate most of the conversation. She also mentioned she had some personal issues going on that period several times. Now I have to say I’m not experienced when it comes to dating (this was my first ever) so when I payed for the coffee and walked her to the place she was going to meet her sister (it was in my direction so I offered) because I was still very uncertain of my feelings I didn’t initiate a second date idea. We simply kissed on the cheeks (common friendly greeting in my country) and went our separate ways.

[April Masini]

Sure! Call her and invite her on a second date if you want to see her again. 🙂 You don’t have to wait a month. If you like her, call her a few days or a week later.

[PAOK]

Thanks! Unfortunately, I just saw this post so I didn’t call her.

I sent her a message yesterday telling her I was thinking about her and I asked how she was doing. She responded she was doing well herself but still busy, mentioning here family issue (this time clarifying it was her grandmothers health). She also asked how I was doing. I then responded back wishing here grandmother well and proceeded to apologize for not getting in touch with her earlier due to some issues myself. I then emphasized that I didn’t forget her. She said it was OK and that she had personal affairs anyways, wishing me well on my own issues. I followed up by lightening the mood with a funny remark about my job without her being around anymore (here internship had finished there) and she responded in the same funny tone. Finally I told her I would really like to see here again this week if she could find the time.

Now her response was very short and I think it didn’t mirror my enthusiasm. She basically said “OK” and stopped the conversation by saying – in free translation from my language – “See ya!”. To tell you the truth I was just happy I set myself out there about my intentions and wasn’t really that bothered (after all she at least responded). So I just messaged back to her saying that whenever she finds the time she can text me and we can plan something. I then ended the conversation by wishing here a good evening. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think it’s safe to say I shouldn’t wait to hear from here again.

[April Masini]

Sounds like you didn’t ask her out. The ball’s in your court. 😉

[PAOK]

Just a small update before this thread is declared officially closed. I texted here again 2 days later suggesting a time and place to an event I thought would be nice to go to. Unfortunately she turned it down graciously, due to obligations at her village, without suggesting a possible meeting afterwards. I want to thank you for helping me out. I’ll try to put into action everything that this encounter and you have taught me so far and next time I feel I’ll do better because of your feedback. Thank you again for everything!

P.S. One thing that really bugs me though is that she made the first move, and I probably really messed up to make her dislike me on our first one on one encounter. What I mean is that I assume it’s easier when someone’s already in to you to develop a relationship that when you have to work up to that point first.What can I say! I guess I have to improve a lot!

[April Masini]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

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