Dating is competitive, and when you use a dating app like Tinder, you’re putting yourself smack in the middle of high competition. So if you hate dating — which I think really means you hate competing — look for dates in places where competition is less intense. Like real life! Your coffee shop, your gym, your apartment building, your supermarket — these are all places to start up small talk and introduce yourself.
That said, it sounds like you had one coffee date with this woman and then she met someone else she’s dating now. My advice is to definitely not give up — but you have to change your tactic. Texting hasn’t yielded you good results. Send her a gift with an enticing note that you miss her. Don’t beg for a date, but do let her know what she’s missing with your generosity and your commitment to chasing her. (Yes, you can chase her!) And at the same time, play the field. You have to balance the chase for this woman with looking elsewhere as well. And if that sounds overwhelming, dial it down, and simply smile at 20 new women each day — and if they smile back, compliment them and see if conversation begins.
Do chase — but don’t give up on the rest of the women out there!
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