[relationshipa1]

so I have a guy friend who I used to work wit ..he has a girlfriend.. and ever since he stoped working with me I
get text messages about how we need to get together .. 😉 😉 .yea sleep together and go out to dinner etc..
We are post to go to 2 baseball games together but idk if I should go anymore plus I know if we were to drink things might lead to something bad..I know he has a girfriend but a part of me wants to just go for it cause he complains about how unhappy he is wit her ..but the other half of me knows its wrong and
thinks I just need to stay away from him..do u think i should stop talkin to him all together?? because i have told him lots of times we cant mess around unless he gets rid of her .. not to mention he texts me and things while she is around..i dont want a relationship be any means but i would like to mess around with him…what do you think? 👿

[April Masini]

You’re confused. On one hand you say you don’t want a relationship and on the other hand you say it’s wrong of you to go out with him as long as he has a girlfriend! 😯 Which is it?

I don’t believe you don’t want a relationship — in fact, I think you like him, but you don’t want to get hurt, which is a valid concern given the fact that he seems ready and willing to hurt his girlfriend by seeing you on the side. This guy seems like he’s only into sex and isn’t interested in your feelings or a long term relationship. I think that he just sort of came along and went after you, and you’re interested because there’s no one else in your life right now.

It would be better if you didn’t waste your time with this guy, and instead, looked for Mr. Right so you could have someone to sleep with — who cares about you and is interesting and interested in you in and out of bed.

I hope that helps.

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[katdawg]

Also remember if he does it with you he’ll do it to you. That just seems like the type of guy he is. I agree with April. You shouldn’t waste your time with him. I assume you would be okay with him seeing someone other than his girlfriend? More than likely what is happening to his girlfriend will happen to you. That’s just my gut feeling.

[Anonymous]

Yea ur both right I know that…I really would just wanna have sex but then I know I would be hurting his girl..I’m dating so finding another guy isn’t a problem so I’m just goin to focus on that and stop talkin to this guy at all for a while then maybe he will stop tryin to get in my pants…
Thanks…

[April Masini]

[b]katdawg[/b] is right when she asks you to consider that what he is doing to his girlfriend, he’ll likely do to you. 😕 Remember that you are the author of your own life, so just because a guy wants to sleep with you doesn’t mean you have to be reactive. If you keep your personal goals front and center, whatever they may be, you don’t have to worry about what another man wants — you can be focused on finding someone who is compatible with you and your goals. I hope that helps!

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