Sleep deprivation is like torture, so if your wife has been sleep deprived for years now, she’s miserable and not thinking clearly. All she wants is to sleep, and she hasn’t been able to. Sleep deprivation affects every facet of her life, and isn’t healthy. So, she’s not in a great place, herself. And certainly not in a great place to work with you on this problem. So, you need to find a way to woo her back on board — if it’s not too late for this problem that plagues [b][i]so many[/i][/b] couples!!
First, give her a gift of a week in a nice [i]quiet[/i] hotel so she can catch up on her sleep and be well rested before you start talking about solutions to the problem. When she’s slept for a week, sit down, and tell her you will do [i]anything and everything[/i] to fix your snoring so that her life with you is better than it has be. If you really want to hit a grand slam, present her with a gift (jewelry works!) to show your commitment to overcoming this problem and your giant apology for her having to go through these sleepless nights.
Then, together, start seeing doctors. If one doctor has no solution, then move on to the next one. You have to be very aggressive in seeking a cure for this problem that is fixable and will break your marriage if you don’t deal with it effectively. So, you have your work cut out for you!
In the meantime, here are some solutions that might work:
Separate bedrooms sounds Victorian, but it can be very sexy. Sometimes having a separate bedroom doesn’t sound so extreme if divorce is the other end of the spectrum.
Figure out if your snoring happens if you’re just on your back. Some women actually sew a tennis ball into the back of their man’s pajamas, so if he rolls on his back, he’ll be uncomfortable enough from the tennis ball, to go back onto his side — and not snore.
Surgery. There are surgeries that can correct whatever blockage you have that is creating the snoring problem. Check with your dentist as well as your primary care physician. Sometimes a dentist or oral surgeon can help you more than a regular general practitioner with this problem. Occasionally, there’s a blockage by the tonsils or the uvula in the back of the throat. Sometimes a deviated septum in your nose is creating improper air flow. Sometimes it’s something entirely different. There are sleep disorder clinics and lots of doctors you can go to for help.
Don’t you dare stop at one doctor who says he can’t help you when your marriage is on the line!
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