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So Frustrated….

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  • March 24, 2012 at 10:42 pm #5072
    Simp87
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    I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is really sweet and would do anything for me. But the problem is his immature teasing. He deliberately bugs me about things that he know really upset me. I’ve talked to him about this dozens of times, even given him an ultimatum. Nothing seems to change. He says he respects me and doesn’t do it to hurt me. He’s “just joking” or “He forgot” that I told him that I’m sensitive about a certain issue. He has no other friends, and is quite insecure. He talks about getting married but I can’t marry a man whom I feel like I can’t trust. I’m thinking since he’s so insecure, this might his way of making himself feel in control and secure. What should I do?

    March 26, 2012 at 12:04 pm #22779
    April Masini
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    [quote]He is really sweet and would do anything for me. [/quote]

    If this is really true, then all you have to do is ask him to stop teasing you because it hurts your feelings. I’m thinking it’s not as true as you think it is. 😳 He’s either immature (how old is he?) or he’s not so sweet — he’s actually angry and is taking out his darker feelings in this passive aggressive way. 😕

    [quote]He has no other friends, and is quite insecure. [/quote]

    Uh oh. No friends?? No wonder he’s angry. Something else is going on beneath the surface. Are you trying to save him by being with him?

    How old are you?

    March 29, 2012 at 2:05 pm #22832
    Simp87
    Participant

    I am 25, he’s 29.

    March 29, 2012 at 2:17 pm #22831
    April Masini
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    I’m surprised that he’s as old as 29 and has no friends. This is definitely a flashing yellow light, as is his insecurity. After a year and a half of dating, you probably know why he has no friends and have ignored that fact. I’m guessing it has something to do with the passive aggressive ribbing you’re getting. When you’re not dating or sleeping with someone and they do that kind thing to you, you disconnect and “de-friend” them because it’s not worth the pain, being with the person. It doesn’t sound like he’s going to change, and the question you have to ask yourself is, If you marry this guy and have children with him, what kind of effect will this behavior have on you down the line, and on your children. In other words, is this someone you want to go the distance with, given this behavior?

    I wouldn’t recommend dating someone who has no friends.

    I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1154528031.[/url]. 🙂

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