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Suggested seeing each other more often then changed his mind

April Masini Relationship Advice Forum Relationship Advice Forum Suggested seeing each other more often then changed his mind

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    Sue
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    I have been dating a guy who lives in a different city for a few months. Up until the week before his visit two weeks ago, he called and emailed a lot, talked about the future, and brought up the topic of seeing each other more often, saying he wanted to do so.

    The week before his visit an old friend of his died and he went to the funeral. The week between the funeral and his visit to me, he was different. He only sent a couple of emails all week and didn’t call at all.

    Then when he visited two weeks ago he was okay the first night, but the second day he seemed upset and distant. I didn’t ask him about it, but he said that he was upset about his friend’s funeral and I can understand that.

    However, perhaps unrelated is the fact that on night #2 of the visit, he did an about face on seeing each other more often than we had been seeing each other prior to the visit. He never explained the reason for the change and I didn’t ask him why. Later he said I seemed reserved compared to the night before. If I did seem reserved it was because of his about face. Although I didn’t tell him I was concerned about his change of tune, I did let him know nicely that I liked his prior idea of seeing each other more often but I didn’t push it and then we just let it go.

    He emailed me immediately upon his return home to say he made it home safely and that it was a memorable weekend, which was fine. He didn’t ask me any questions, so I waited a week to respond to see whether he would call me, but he didn’t. Last Friday afternoon (6 days ago), I sent him a simple email saying I hope he had had a nice week and that he would have a nice weekend (he was going out of town with his daughter for the weekend).

    He sent me a friendly email Monday morning asking me how I was doing, but I haven’t responded. I haven’t heard anything more from him either.

    I’m always reading that if a guy pulls away from you, you should lay low and let him come forward. To my way of thinking, the pull away here is his change of tune about seeing each other more often than we had been.
    What should I do? Continue to do nothing and if he doesn’t come forward figure that he lost interest?

    #25143
    April Masini
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    Decide if you want to continue dating him or not. If you do, then my advice is to be less sensitive and more understanding — he was upset about his friend’s funeral and pulled back. That’s normal. And it sounds like other than that, you had one night together where he was chilly to you and he thought you were chilly to him. This sounds like some miscommunication, and not over anything that’s a very big deal. Sometimes you have to overlook his bad moods — especially if they’re few and far between — and decide not to react to everything he does. 😉

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    #25145
    Sue
    Participant

    Assuming I do want to continue dating him, what should I do or not do at this point?

    #25511
    April Masini
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    If you want to keep seeing him, then you have to overlook the behavior around the funeral. Be responsive and happy to hear from him when you do, and if he asks you out, follow the detailed advice in Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], and be the vixen who is alluring enough to get the guy — and the smart dater who knows when to move on because someone isn’t interested. 😉

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