[Nadia898]

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 2 years. He recently told me that we need to take a break because now that he is an adult (20 years old) he needs to see what life is like without me. In turn he will see if we should really be together for the rest of our lives. I am completely heart broken by this because everything was perfect for me until he told me this. While we are on a break, he said everything will be the same between us. We will act the same around eachother, except he will not be around as much (he was hardly around to begin with), we will not be doing anything sexual, and he is free to hook up with who he chooses. The last condition really got me upset because he is allowing himself to be open to other girls. However, he did say that the chance that he will actually hook up with another girl is one in a million. He just wants to make sure that he really wants to be with me after this break is said and done. Am I an idiot for agreeing to these conditions and waiting around to see if he really wants to be with me?

[Smokey]

Nadia,

You should of posted in Relationship Advice section… nevermind.
Sounds to me like a soft breakup, meaning that he wants to look around and see other girls, and if it doesn’t work out, he still got you to fall back on. My old gf (wow, this is going back to my school days) was the same and we ended up seeing less and less of each other, then the relationship just ended. 🙁 It hurt like hell when i found out she slept with another boy. Thinking back, I can kinda see why – she was bored of me & I was too accommodating to her needs. It’s past now – lesson learned. I’m a better person now.

For a relationship to work, I don’t think someone’s heart can be divided (in his case, you and potentially other girls). Sometimes you got to listen to your head and not just your heart. I hope your talk with him goes well.

Smokey.

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As far as my thinking goes, the base of any relationship is its faith. If u have strong belief in your relationship then no matter where he goes what he does, he will eventually be yours. Give him this chance to test out, there is no harm in it. If u’ll crib then u’re going to spoil ur relationship…

[April Masini]

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