this is super long but is he going to ask me to be his gf or should i ask whats up

[lillianpdelrey]

okay so me and this guy were talking and about a month or two into talking he established that he wasnt down to play games and that he wasnt down for a relationship but it didnt seem that i was down to sleep with him. So i brought up friends with benefits and he agreed. So we pursued that but we never actually slept together… we did everything else that leads up to that, and yet during that time we went out, i met his friends, his brother we even went out for valentines day and he got dressed up nicely. Anyways around Feb 22 we kind of stopped talking and we didnt talk for a good week and like two days. He finally messaged me and asked what happened and why i didnt talk to him in forever. I answered saying he could have talked to me and he replied with a whole paragraph about how he is busy and he barely uses his phone (which is somewhat true yet during the time we never talked he always posted on his snap story)and that he was dumb for not talking to me blah blah. I told him i didnt message him cause i thought he wasnt interested anymore and i didnt want to annoy him. He told me that thats not it. Long story short we’re talking again, we snapchat all the time, he tried to make plans with me this past weekend but i was busy unfortunately (but hes making the effort), we saw each other recently and he stared into my face it was adorable. I know he likes me because hes told a mutual friend. But i want more than what we agreed on and he gives me mixed signals all the time. We say we’re fwb but we act like a couple hold hands go on dates etc. I have a strong feeling that he wants a relationship now otherwise he would have not messaged me or attempted to make the effort. But im not 100 percent sure. Do you think I should ask him where were going or do you think he’ll ask me out? Also the day we started talking again he posted a video on his snap story of him listening to a sad song with the caption thinking of you. Please help whats your opinion?

[caseyghatchell]

If you really like that guy you’re meeting with, you should ask him to be your BF. No shame in it. Also take a note that how often he communicates with you! This is important to measure whether he really care for your or his job. After that you can ask to be your BF!!

[April Masini]

If you want to be a girlfriend, and not a friend with benefits, then you have to change your behavior and start acting like a girlfriend and not a friend with benefits. 😉 This is often difficult because you run the risk of losing the relationship if he only wants a FWB and you’ve changed the game after agreeing to FWB. People who are afraid of that risk, stay in the FWB relationship — unhappily. But, if you’re right, and he does want a relationship, then your not acting like a FWB and instead, transitioning to a woman who goes on dates because she wants a committed, monogamous relationship, is going to bring you answers and results.

I don’t recommend having “the talk” about the relationship because if he does want more, you’ve taken that opportunity away from him, to ask you out and forge a new path. And more likely, if you’re having to have “the talk”, which guys hate, you already know the answer and don’t like it, and are hoping that the talk will be a hail mary pass.

See if you can change YOUR behavior to bring about a change in his, instead of talking to him about his changing his.

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