Too many skeletons in his closet!!!!

[cateyes9178]

I am 30 and my boyfriend is 31, we have been together for 8 months. He is by all definitions a “great catch.” I have had two other long term (5+ yrs) relationships. He dated a girl for about a year but she moved away when he was 20 or 21 so he has never really had a long term relationship or for that matter a “girlfriend.” But he says he’s ready now and all is good. But he wants to know everything about my past relationships and wants to tell me all of his experience. So he revealed to me that he has been “intimate” with at least 80 women. I am kinda taken back/turned off/shocked by this. I dont know what to think and I don’t want to think of him as “that guy” I know its in the past and I do feel he is past that stage of his life but it still bothers me and I dont want to get stuck on this issue. Any thoughts? Is this the average for single guys? Whats wrong that he never wanted to have a relationship?

[GPM]

I don’t think that 80 is an average for a guy. That’s way too high. It looks like he just wanted sex, but without the relationship or the commitment. He might say that he’s over that stage of his life, but the reality is that those types of behaviours never really disappear. Let’s be serious here: people never really change overnight.In other words, he’ll always keep that “perverted” side of himself. I don’t know who you are so I can be TOTALLY honest and say that chances are he’ll eventually cheat on you. That’s probably not what you wanted to hear (or read), but that’s my opinion. I’ve seen too many relationships and marriages break-up due to the fact that one person was expecting the other to change…. and it never happened. BTW I’m 33 year old guy.

[April Masini]

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