Hey there.
I’m in my first serious relationship with a girl I’m quite smitten.
However, due to some past platonic relationship gaffes, I am a bit wary of my behaviour. I also have some mental health issues that make it harder for me to judge what is appropriate and what is crossing the line. I’ve explained my mental health and my fears to her, and she is totally cool with the fact that I may do seemingly creepy things at times (but she finds them endearing, so far!)
However where I come into issue is, I like to look at her. I find her stunningly beautiful and I am always blown away by how much I think so.
We are a bit long distance (3hours), so I don’t get to see her in person overly often at this point.
In person I’m not much of a starer, excessive eye contact being something neither of us likes.
So I like to keep pictures of her on my iPod. (Not as a background– tried that, creeped us both out.)
I don’t take the pictures, I just use the ones she puts on Facebook.
She knows I do this, and says she’s okay with/even happy about it.
On a bad day I’ll pull up a picture of her with a funny face or something to cheer me up.
Or at night I’ll bring one up while we say our good nights over text.
What I want to know is, is there a line to be drawn about how many I keep?
I don’t save every picture she posts, only the ones I like best, but they still number over fifty.
Is that creepy excessive? Should I try and narrow my favourites down more?
I feel like a hundred would be way too many and definitely in the creepy obsessive zone, but I don’t know where that border starts, and I don’t know if the line is drawn more in usage than sheer numbers?
Some help would be nice for this slightly socially dysfunctional person.
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