[relationshipa1]

I started dating a guy about 2 months ago and he asked me out a week after we met. We got really close very quickly after we met but then he had some family and health problems going on so he was distracted so we didn’t really get to see each other, which was understandable. Now it’s been about a month since we have seen each other outside the gym we both go to and I’m confused on whether he is still interested. He sends a lot of mixed messages, like sometimes he acts really happy to see me and initiates conversation but then other days he doesn’t really acknowledge me. I’m not sure if he knows that I’m still interested or not but in the beginning he was so forward that I feel like he would’ve just asked me out again by now. I am thinking that I just have to either take a hint or buck up and tell him I still have feelings and need to know if he does too but I’m unsure of how to go about this. I want to ask him is he still feels a connection but am scared to and unsure of how to do it without being awkward or coming off as desperate. Help please!

[April Masini]

Do NOT ask him if he still has feelings for you. He doesn’t. He’s lost interest. When a guy doesn’t ask you out, or stops asking you out over time, he’s not interested in dating you. Asking him why he’s not asking you out or telling him you’re interested in him after he’s stopped dating you is just going to make him feel worse about being with you. He’ll feel guilty, annoyed or like you’re a charity case. It’s best to keep your feelings to yourself or talk to your girlfriends (and me!) about them. Not him.

While it’s fair for you to continue to flirt with him, you’d do best to move on and look elsewhere for love.

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