[relationshipa1]

hi, i moved to hong kong 4 months ago for a year, and i met a girl 2 weeks before i left. we started calling and texting each other the whole time, even when i left already. everything was perfect, she told me she loved me and i told her the same back to her, it couldn’t be any better. 3 weeks before i came back home, i called her and she didn’t pick up, then a few days later i texted her saying to call me whenever possible because i had great news. she didn’t call me or text me back. now im home, and she hasn’t called me once, so i told her in a text that i was back home, and i tried calling her once. 2 days later i left her a message saying that i got the message and that i wont bother her any more.
i also send a message to her friend whos number i had because she texted me once with that number
did i do the right thing? is there something else i should have done? do you think i can still get her back?

please help me,

stevi

[Anonymous]

If you are sure you have the right phone # (possibility she changed it?) then I would say you are being purposely ignored. If you haven’t done something you think might have upset her that would cause her to not return yours calls I would say looks like she may have moved on and don’t waste your time. If there is anything you may have done to upset her you could try leaving her a message in an attempt to apologize. Otherwise, personally I wouldn’t ignore a man’s messages/phone calls if I was still interested in him, that doesn’t make sense. I’m sorry 😐

[April Masini]

I’m sorry that you feel desperate. Unfortunately, you can’t get a woman who doesn’t want to be gotten — to the extent that she won’t take your calls or return your texts. She’s sending you a very clear message that she’s not interested. Your desperation comes from the fact that you know she’s not interested, you don’t like it one bit, and you want to change things, but deep down, you know you can’t.

My advice to you is to accept the fact that she’s not interested and start looking for a woman who’s actually available and interested in you. Feeling desperate is extremely uncomfortable, and that’s not how you should feel in a healthy relationship.

If you let her go, and start looking for someone who wants to be with you, returns your calls and your texts, then you’re going to stop feeling desperate and start feeling happy.

You didn’t get this girl — but I’m sure the next one will be a better situation! 🙂

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