I love this girl very much and she loves me too. She studies abroad.
I met her during her summer holiday and we instantly clicked. She has a boyfriend, but that didn’t stop us from developing a relationship.
She went back to school but we stayed in touch and spoke to each other everyday for three months. When she got back for the Christmas holiday, our love was even stronger. She kept on telling me how she was confused and had no more feelings for her boyfriend because of our relationship, but she said she was cohabiting with him and that it was near impossible for her to leave the apartment since her parents had paid half of her rent for the next 6 months with her boyfriend paying his share of the rent as well, so basically she is stuck with him, however she showed a semblance of still trying to make it work with him.
She is in her final year at the university and within 5 months she will be back for good. During the December holiday, things got heated up and we had sex several times. I could tell it was very emotional for her because she has had only one boyfriend in her life and I am only the second person she has slept with (or so she says).
I met her through a Friend of hers who I had relations with previously. They are close and she knows what happened between her friend and I, but she has looked past that.
Recently, she has been showing signs of wanting a serious future with me and she looks like she is ready to leave her boyfriend for me if I show that I am seriously committed to her for a long term relationship that could end up in marriage. I truly love her and I know that she loves me too, but my main reason for not showing her pure commitment is because my friends dont think she is good enough for me and my family wouldn’t accept her, based on her background ( I know that’s totally lame in this day and age, but it’s the fact).
In my opinion, you don’t choose who you love, it happens because of the compatibility between Two parties. I think we are highly compatible, but I can’t fathom disregarding my family and friends opinions, because they also matter and at the same time I love her but our future together looks foggy. I really need advice on how to deal with this kind of situation.
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