The hardest part of any relationship can be allowing a second person their own personality, their own feelings, and their own behavior! But you are going to be tortured until you face reality. And then it’s not going to be so pleasant either, but it’s the only way to have peace and happiness in the long run.
Your boyfriend is making things so clear for you: he isn’t interested in you. I’m sorry, but you can’t make him want you when he doesn’t. When you write that he’s adamantly refusing to become romantically involved with you — you have your own answer.
I wonder what it is about a man who doesn’t want to be with you, that you want so much.
So, here’s what you do. You stop calling, texting, e-mailing and running into him. The reason is because you are too valuable to waste your time with someone who isn’t interested in you. You start spending time in places where available men are doing productive things — like working, working out, lunching, or hanging out with your good friends.
If you’re calm enough to sit down and read, you’d do well to get my book, Think & Date Like A Man, by clicking on the Relationship Advice Books tab at the top of the page, then scrolling down and buying the book for $15. It will help you step by step to start dating eligible and fantastic men who want to be with you and will bring you romance and happiness.
In the meantime, I feel your panic and your pain, but unless you change your own behavior, there’s no chance of anything good happening in the near future. Change your course, however, and love and romance are yours for the having.
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