Hmmmm….I’d like to know why you moved out of the home you were sharing with your boyfriend of two years. Without that information it seems like your relationship took a giant step backward when you did move out, and he became a little more single than he was when you were living together.
It sounds to me like he’s wanting to date other people, but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings so he’s not telling you the whole truth. When you find yourself confused, it’s best to pay attention to a person’s behavior instead of what they’re saying. Clearly, your boyfriend is wanting freedom. What he does with it when you’re not around is his business.
If you want to get him back, you’re going to have to start from square one in a sense, since you’re no longer living with him, and he already knows you really well having dated you for two years. What I mean by starting from square one is that you can’t place demands on him that you did when you were living together. You have to wait for him to ask you out on a date, but while waiting, you get to work on yourself, and make him realize what a catch you are!
While you’re living single now, invest that extra time you have in improving yourself. Those improvements can be physical (join a gym and get toned and fit), cosmetic (get a new hair style, work on your makeup, keep up extra grooming habits), intellectual, (join a political group or take a class), social (volunteer and do charity, make new friends and throw parties) — the sky’s the limit. What you’ll find is that you’re not as dependent on him, and that alone may make you more attractive to him. You’ll also be opening up your own world, and he’ll notice that. He may realize that he’s going to lose you to another guy because the more new and improved you become, the more men you’re going to attract. Not wanting to lose you, he may come running back.
But you’re not going to know unless you move forward in your own life. I hope this helps. 🙂
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