What do i do?? im so sad

[relationshipa1]

I was going out with my ex and i met him and we were so happy and he treated me so good, and i met his family and friends and i was just so happy with him, we work during the week so we got see each other once during the week and spent the weekend together and hed always call me at 8:30 at night after he came home from work, i was so happy,

He took me out with his friend and motor bike riding and fishing and everything was perfect, and just last Friday he broke up with me cause he said i was getting to clingy and i said to him how can i be getting clingy i don’t see you during the week i let you do what you want and , you call me and hes like i feel like talking to you is a chore this is after a month and he said we rushed into thins to quick and i said ok, I asked him if we can start and do it slowly and stuff and hes like i don’t think i can, he said his feelings aren’t strong for me :[

Its just last Friday i called him and asked if he wanted to come to dinner and he said nah he is right and i said ok and i asked if we were ok and he said yes and then half and hr later he is at my door breaking up with me , and he said to me when we were together hed be a fool to let me go and that’s what he has done…

Ever since we broke up i have txted him or called him i just left it cause i don’t want to hassle him , i just miss him so much and he made me so happy , i don’t know what to do i feel like my hear has broken and i have no one to turn to.. You have someone who comes into your life that makes you so happy and then you think everything fine and then they don’t feel the same i just dont get what to do,??? I miss him and want him back

[Evie]

You’re not alone out there!

I can sympathize with you. I’m going through the similar thing right now. A guy came into my life, tells me that he likes me, asked if I would be his girlfriend. He was so wonderful to me, only by the end of the week he breaks up with me, telling me that he wants to go back to being friends. I want him back too, the same way you feel about your ex.

Perhaps that he only liked you as a friend the whole time and enjoyed your company while it was there. Or maybe he finds that he wasn’t ready to commit or emotionally ready for a long-term relationship. Maybe he’s not the one or maybe he doesn’t know what he wants. I’ve been on the receiving end of this one time too many and never really knew what was wrong until recently, after talking to all my friends. I talked to my ex and he told me that he liked me as a friend, and now we stayed friends. Perhaps it might help you on how you feel if you have a talk with him and get some answers.

There isn’t much you can do other than give it time. Don’t dwell on it too much. I know its hard but if you keep dwelling on it you’ll be sadder than you already are. You sound like a wonderful person who deserves a guy who will do anything and everything for you.

[April Masini]

I’m sorry you’re sad. Rejection is painful. But…if you can stop looking backwards at what you used to have, but no longer do, and look at today and the future, I think what you’ll find is that your ex-boyfriend really did right by you by being honest with you that he wasn’t interested. He didn’t waste your time because when he first started dating you he had good intentions, but dating isn’t a commitment that necessarily leads to marriage or forever. Dating is a process whereby both people decide if they are a good match together. When you lose sight of that fact that dating is a process and not a commitment, you can fool yourself into thinking that a date or a boyfriend is a fiance or a husband.

What your boyfriend did when he broke up with you was to allow you to begin to look elsewhere for Mr. Right, and if you’re able to accept your pain, but not dwell in it, you can understand that relationships are the culmination of both peoples’ feelings. You can’t control his, and he can’t control yours. It could just as easily have been you realizing you weren’t that into him — or someone else down the line.

So, heal your broken heart by focusing on you, and not him, and start living your life for today and tomorrow, not yesterday.

I hope that helps! 🙂

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