This shouldn’t be about what he wants — it should be about what YOU want. 😉 You got involved in a friends with benefits with relationship with someone you work with who’s seeing someone long-distance. It sounds like you really want a commitment, and knowing that you should look for someone who wants the same thing. When you start out as a friend with benefits, you’re not treating yourself like a girlfriend, so it’s hard to expect anyone else to treat you like one. Be the person you want someone else to see you as. 😉 If you want monogamy, date people who are looking for the same thing. And if you’re distracted by relationships at work, you should probably only date outside the office because the problem with office romance is that if it doesn’t work out, you have to see the person every day. 😳
Instead of focusing on his playing games — focus on your future. Start looking to date outside the office, stay busy and involved, make dates with friends and let everyone outside the office know you’re single and available. Have parties at your home, accept invitations and get out there — shop, go to museums and concerts, take classes, volunteer, join a new gym, and be busy and productive. 🙂 That’s not just the way to get over heartache — it’s the way to meet someone new. 😎
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