yeah but i want LESS space!

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. It’s been halfway wobderful and halfway frustrating. We are in our late twenties so we should be able to communicate our emotions to eachother, but cant. We will spend a few days apart and then i wonder why he doesnt want to see me. he’ll say he’s stressed or tired… well i know lots of techniques to alleviate those problems. then i start thinkin oh he just doesnt want to be with me, then i get caught up thinking all the reasons why he wouldnt which makes me anxious and fs with my self esteem. i try to bring it up, like, i miss you, when can i see you and he reacts coolly and then i get upset. sometimes i see him at work and he seems reluctant in saying ok we’ll hang out later. nevertheless i get excited because we ALWAYS have a good time together. he says he’ll call in a while. 2 hours later calls and is iffy then says he’ll call back then doez in a half an hour telling me he wants to be at homr alone. i just waited for him for HOURS for that verdict and since we havent seen eachother in a few days i have already started the incessant worrying that he’s getting sick of me or gonna dump me. so i start crying on the phone and act crazy. he says im not acting crazy but he doesnt want to talk about this right now. so i say ypu have to. i tell him all you have to do is every once in a while make it known to me somehow that you care about me so i wont have to think these things…he wont though. i have never been in a relationship like this, i feel like im dating a teen. ive been waiting forever for him to “open up” is it ever gonna happen? he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me so why cant he tell me what i want to hear and how can i stop imagining scenarios in my head like “maybe hes pushing away cuz he sees this iant gonna last” or that ive gained a few and hes no longer attracted! why do i inviosion reasons for a breakup that isnt even happening? ??? ahhhhhh!

[April Masini]

It sounds like he’s not Mr. Right and you’re trying to get him to be — only you can’t, so you’re miserable. 😳 Think about what you’ve written — and take a few steps back. Why do you want to be with someone who acts like a teenager when he’s closer to 30? Why do you want to be with someone who isn’t that interested in seeing you? You’re turning into the woman who never gets the guy because the women who do get the men never ever spend time with anyone they have to ask the question you did: Why don’t you want to see me?

When a man wants you and when he wants you to be “the one” he’ll act like it. This guy isn’t, and you’re only going to push him away and make yourself crazy in the process.

My advice is that you read Think & Date Like A Man so you understand what men want and how to be the woman they chase. It’ll be a huge relief for you to understand and employ these techniques. You can buy the book at this link: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] or on the websites for Barnes & Noble and Amazon.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001113133958[/url]. 😀

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