You discussion on gifts for first dates…..

[Phil]

I took your advice on fragrance……and here is my story.

The setting is downtown Detroit, Mid Town to be exact…..

Ok, I met this woman online and she was very, very pretty. I found out she had her own business and about 15 employees that worked for her. I am a retired military officer, fighter pilot and with 33 years of military service in my background. I am pretty confident in my abilities and what I do in life but I also knew this was not an average woman. I talked to her 4 times on the phone…..probably an hour each time and it was going well. Although she was guarded and 32 years old and knew what she was looking for. Ok, I am 52 years old, always stayed in shape and a 7 out of 10 on looks I think but I knew I had my work cut out for me as an older man with a 20 year younger woman. Anyway, during our conversations I could tell she was very confident, knew what she wanted and nothing was going to phase her. She could be described as a smart, confident, pretty and sexy 5’4″ 110 lb business woman that wanted a relationship in life, since she was online looking for relationships.

Anyway, I thought, well…..how many times to you get a shot at the brass ring, go big or go home, and as the fighter pilot prayer before going into combat….”Dear God, Dont let me screw up.” So the day of the date, I went down to Macy’s and purchased a small Coco Chanel fragerance and had the lady wrap it for me. I wrote on the card, “I don’t want to come on to strong, but I wanted to give you a gift to remember our first date. A beautiful fragerance for a beautiful woman.”

I showed up about 30 minutes early to the resturant got the table and kept the gift in the bag, and in the car that I had parked across the street. She showed up 5 minutes late and I greeted her, we sat down and instantly hit it off. During the conversation, she was a little guarded (to be expected) about things. She had probably had a few bad experiences, like all of us. During the conversation and dinner she said to me 3 times after I had made a comment about making decisions, “I have no problem making my own decisions”, which I could tell. So I had not hit that point though where she was relaxed and her back had relaxed from sitting strait, but instead it was still pretty closed body language wise.

After dinner and some champagne, she mentioned she wanted to hit the powder room and I mentioned I needed to feed the meter for my car and she asked me to do the same as we were about to order some chocolate cake and coffee. Well, I figured it is now or never and I picked up the small black Chanel bag and walked back into the resturant and gave it to the waiter without her knowing and told him to bring it to our table in about two minutes after she got back to sit down.

So we are chatting and the waiter brought the bag, she was really, really caught by suprise and her expression was confusion for 3 seconds and then realization for 10 seconds and then a big grin came out and I saw her shoulders drop and her face flushed and her she covered her mouth with her hand and kept glancing at me, then the bag, me, then the bag, me, then the bag. She started saying, “Is this Chanel?”, “Yes, oh my goodness, what, why did you do this?” She started giggling, “What, should I open this?, What, can I?” During the second that the waiter brought over the bag to approximately 3-4 minutes later, I did not say a word, I mean a single word and just started quitely laughing and enjoying the moment. She finally said with a big smile, “Well, I can’t accept this can I?” I just grinned and shrugged my shoulders and she finally said, “Coco Chanel, I have to accept it.” She said, “You really caught me by suprise, thank you, thank you.” She really started to relax, and mentioned to me that I had flustered her. After 4 minutes of big smiles, giggles between us and absolute giddiness she said, “Can I open it?” I let her off the hook finally and said, “Please do and I would love to smell the fragrance.”

I have had many first dates in my life and I can say, that was one of my funnest moments in my life because it completely softened her, slightly flustered her and we had a wonderful night after that. I eventually paid for the meal walked her to her car, gave her a kiss and we parted ways. I am still seeing her, very special lady.

So, long, long story short, get a gift, wait for the first 45 minutes to see that she is not a jerk and then give the gift to her via the waiter. It is classic. Also, so you spend an extra 45 bucks…..who cares, you can afford it.

Sincerely,

A small bottle of fragrance

[April Masini]

Awesome!! I love this story. Thanks for sharing. 😀

[caseyghatchell]

Truly an amazing story. After reading this post I’ve become inspired to start online dating to build up my first relationship. Since I’ve heard that online dating websites don’t provide genuine details, what they promises to provide to customers. What’s your say about this?

[April Masini]

Please start a fresh string of posts if you have questions unrelated to this original poster’s post. 😉 I’m happy to answer any questions you have that way.

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