[benny8]

I honestly just feel like sending her something along the lines of that I get the feeling she’s being quite hesitant to go on a third date and that the reason might be that I am leaving the country in 2 months and that she might be afraid to continue seeing me. But I want to let her know that I am willing to stay an extra month and that even though I’m moving, I’ll only be a 1 hour plane ride away.

Also, you mentioned in another post (because i accidentally posted this in the wrong thread) that calling would be better to set up a date. But I don’t know if i should do that if she doesn’t respond to my text; doesn’t that come across as super needy?

[benny8]

Ok, so she answered that she couldn’t meet up on friday night because she’d made plans with her parents for dinner and that she was going out with her friends afterwards, which is fair enough. I was pretty glad she answered at least, even though it was almost 24 hours after I’d sent the initial text.

I didn’t text her for 2 days after that and just sent her a text to see how her big test was. I sent her a text today (sunday) to see if she wanted to do anything tomorrow since it’s a bank holiday but she’s taking hours to respond again even though she read my message.

I am honestly starting to think that i should just cut my losses here.

[benny8]

Ok, so she answered that she couldn’t meet up on friday night because she’d made plans with her parents for dinner and that she was going out with her friends afterwards. I was pretty glad she answered at least, even though it was almost 24 hours after I’d sent the initial text.

I didn’t text her for 2 days after that and just sent her a text to see how her big test was. I sent her a text today (sunday) to see if she wanted to do anything tomorrow since it’s a bank holiday but she’s taking hours to respond again even though she read my message.

I am honestly starting to think that i should just cut my losses here.

[benny8]

Hello,

A month ago i met a girl and we really hit it off so we went out on a date a few days after that. We spent the whole night together and i spent the night at her place. Afterwards, we just texted like every day for hours and a few days later we went on our second date where we had dinner, drinks and then we walked around the city. The texting continued to be the same until we both left for easter break. The texting sort of fizzled out and she got sick so that was another week we couldn’t see each other because she lives with her parents.

She’s better now and we’re texting again on a daily basis so yesterday i asked her if she wanted to go to a party but she said she couldn’t because she missed a few tests while being sick and needed to study to redo them later this week. So i texted her this morning saying that since she’s gonna be stuck at home all week studying, that I’d take her out on friday for dinner and go to bar to get drunk and unwind (I said drunk because she texted before she wanted to see what i was like when i got drunk). But she hasn’t answered in hours while she usually answers almost right away. Plus I know she’s seen my texts (whatsapp and all). So I don’t know if she’s trying to tell me she’s not interested in me anymore and if i should just cut my losses with her.

I really like her because when we’re together it’s as if we’ve known each other for years, but now it’s like she’s bored of me.

Some advice would thus be very helpful 🙂

thank you

[benny8]

Hi,

So I am currently dating 3 girls casually, but there is this girl (lets call her Hannah) I hung out with a few times from my class last semester who I have a huge crush on. So last semester we went for lunch and had coffee a few times and we get along incredibly well; whenever we talk it’s like time just flies by. But then after a few times, she kept saying refusing to go lunch even though we’d been in the library the entire day together, to which her friend would make things a bit awkward by saying she should have lunch with me. After that, I just stopped trying and started going out with other girls and sometimes casually talking to Hannah through IM’s and in class (we always sat next to each other).

So a few weeks ago, the new semester started and I don’t have any classes with her now. 2 weeks ago we all decided to go out with our group of friends and she kept passing up advances from all the other guys and she wanted to be the only one in my car with me when we drove to the bar. Needless to say, we started making out at the bar. But I did something stupid; I hinted that I wanted to go back to her place ( since she lives a few streets from the bar.) and i got shot down. I didn’t text her till 3 days afterwards and it wasn’t awkward at all, but then a mutual friend of ours who is still in her class asked me if i was going to her houseparty the next day? I wasn’t invited so obviously I said no. From that point I kept thinking of reasons why I wasn’t invited. then he sent me a text an hour before the party saying he was going at 9 and that she asked him if I was coming. I went to the party and everything was fine between us, and we even gave each other a few glances and there was an intimate moment, but nothing happened. So we went to a bar and she just started ignoring me and kept going to that mutual friend of ours. Then I went home at 4 am. She sent me a text at 5 am (my battery was dead so I only got the text when I started charging it) saying: Text me when you’re home so i can go to sleep, bitch.

And now she’s always hanging out with that guy and everything and I just feel awkward now. I don’t know what to do? I never run after a girl, I mean I’m dating 3 girls (she doesn’t know about them) and the only girl I want to be with is her. Plus everyone knows there’s something between us so maybe she’s scared? i don’t know anymore 😕

– Benny

[benny8]

Basically, what happened before was, my girlfriend of a year cheated on me and then we had a conversation saying we wouldn’t put a label on our relationship while i was away for 5 months. Now I’m coming back next week and I see on Facebook she’s got pictures with a guy I don’t know from a ball she attended. I asked her quite casual who she went to the ball with and she said: “with a guy” followed by “I need to speak to you about that” what followed were some harsh things I said to her and then she said she still wants to see me and stuff followed by: “we weren’t really like that” and “we were keeping it simple so that we couldn’t get angry or something when stuff like this happened”.

I have to say, I am so confused right now. what should I do? we have the same friends and I don’t want to be the one who takes it really badly and then everyone thinks he’s overreacting.

Benny

[benny8]

well, I confronted him the day after she told me. He tried to justify it by saying we were broken up at the time and that they were drunk and that they haven’t spoken ever since because my girlfriend hates him for taking advantage of her while she was drunk. Then he said he hoped it wouldn’t affect our friendship, but it does and I told him as well.
My girlfriend and I are both quite busy at the moment so we haven’t seen each other in person much this week, but I will talk about it again with her next time I speak to her.

thank you

benny

[benny8]

my girlfriend is 23, I am 22 and the other guy and girl are 22.

[benny8]

my girlfriend and I are 22 the guy she got with is 21.

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