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If you aren’t on this site to actually get advice and improve yourself… if it’s all about the ‘views’… you definitely need a new way to get attention. This site is for people to voice their issues and try to get some other points of view. There are so many people out there that have been in the same situation and its nice to know you are not alone. I hope you and your therapist have a great time. I won’t be looking at your post anymore…. I hope you do come to terms with yourself and realize what you are right now is self destructive. Good luck.

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April,

I know its been a little while since your reply, and at first I didn’t want to believe what you were telling me. As always, I have been a sucker to his manipulations. Well yesterday, he left his phone unlocked… and when I looked through it I discovered that one of his new guy friends he had been texting and calling was actually a woman and he had lied to me. I am now staying with my parents trying to decide what to do, I have suggested we go to marriage counseling with him… he turned that down. So I very much doubt he actually wants to work on the relationship. Anyways, I just wanted to thank you for your advice no matter how hard it was to hear. Thank again!

Brittany

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To me the answer is simple… you KNOW that you love Corey. Would you really want to hurt him over Tyler— who you’ve admitted has hurt you many times before? Explain to Tyler that you have moved on and that you do not intend on rekindling your relationship with him. If he refuses to accept that for an answer- change your number. You don’t need that kind of drama in your life. Give Corey all you’ve got- he sounds like a great guy! Tyler will get over it- he’ll either realize how big of an ass he is and change for the future girl, or move on to another girl and act the same way… either way you are saving yourself confusion and hurt. Good luck!

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Hello,

I know I’m reading this a little later… but I agree with April. Finding a job can take awhile sometimes, especially with your criminal background. Might I suggest that during your time unemployed you volunteer your time with a local charity? It would put you out there in the community, you’d meet new people, and when you interview for your next job… it would look pretty good on a resume instead of saying you were sitting at home crying in self-pity. An Employer is looking for someone who is stable and confident… and at this point you are not.

Also, many community’s have courses that help you learn how to snag a job. They give pointers on building resumes and how to conduct an interview. My sister was recently out of rehab for drug charges and has some misdemeanors on her record and she found this class very helpful.

You definitely need to prioritize your life. No woman is going to be drawn to someone who makes excuses for his life or lives with his mother. Like an employer, they want someone who is stable and confident. If you take the steps to improve your situation, women can overlook past indescretions as long as you have learned from them.

There IS someone out there for you… don’t settle for just anyone who would jump in the sack with you. Virginity is something special… and waiting this long already, you don’t wanna ruin your first experience. So get your life straight, and THEN the women will come to you. 🙂

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That is really weird. Sex shouldn’t be about taking people’s virginities or doing them favors… its supposed to be about love and attraction. Making promises to sleep with people and feeling obligated to fulfill them is messed up.

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Honestly dude- I can see it both ways… I offered my now husband to take a two week break so that he could be sure he wanted to be with me- he didn’t take it though because he knew that if he slept with someone else it would still have repercussions on our relationship- permission or not. My best advice would be to follow your gut. If you are not comfortable with this arrangement, say so… how awkard is it to just have sex with someone to take their virginity anyway? is there any attraction there??? Weird.

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