April –
I just re-read my post and realized that perhaps I did not appropriately address the point of my consternation. I guess some people have said that it is better to address issues of straying or infidelity head on, while other advice has been to let “sleeping dogs lie”. I never got the chance to be with another man, and while i dont make that as an excuse for what I did, it is something that I consider behind me. While my husband was my first, i know the reciprocal was not true for me (to him). I felt like I always did the right thing throughout life, I was always the good girl…and this encounter with this young man was a chance to enjoy and be ‘bad’ for once in my life.
I’m really hoping to get some objective advice on whether this is something I should address with my husband head on, or since its done and over, it’s better to just suck it up and live with the internal emotional consequence. Its hard since I’ve heard from some people that unless there is something that can be gained out of divulging such past indescretions, its not worth saying. I’m really hoping for some advice. I dont think of myself to be a bad girl..quite the contrary over these years of always doing the right thing.
I just need some thoughts on the matter.
-N