[cg1984]

Hi April,

I wanted to give you an update on what’s going on with my love life since your last advice. We’re official again! On the first week of April, I went to visit him in Florida where he’s attending school. Two weeks before I departed, he told me we needed to talk but that he’d wait until I was there with him. When I did get there, he confessed he still loved me and apologized for treating me horribly when we were together. He recognized that I had always been there for him and thank me for loving him unconditionally. Then came the question. “Do you want to be my girlfriend… again?” I couldn’t answer him at the moment. I didn’t think either of us was ready because we still needed to discuss many issues that had never been addressed before. I was there about 12 days and we had several discussions in which two became harsh arguments. I told him several times that I should’ve never visited and that we were better off alone. He freaked! He reflected and apologized saying that he didn’t want to lose me again. The day I left, he confessed more to me. It melted my heart! He said that I was the best thing that ever happened to him, I was perfect in his eyes, he loves me very much, he had always loved me, I’m a good person with so much love to give… and the list goes on. This is coming from a guy who is extremely proud and arrogant. He promised to stay committed to me and I did as well, so we made it official then. Aside from the disagreements, he was such a sweetheart and we had a wonderful time. I stayed at his place to avoid paying for a hotel. He paid for all my meals. I never felt like a princess… not even when we were together the first time. I guess he now realizes what he lost and wants it back. Moving away is probably the major factor that forced him to mature. I’ve been on my own since I was 18. Although he was in the Marines, it is until now that he realizes how difficult being on your own is. He finally understands me in that sense and respects my dedication towards my job and school.

Since then, we’ve had lots of discussions and I believe we’re making progress. If I complain about something, I tell him that it’s not because I want to control him or initiate an argument. He knows now that I simply want him to understand me and respect my feelings. He’s stubborn but he’s been getting better. I recently thank him for making an effort to be a good boyfriend.

Now I just fear the thought of going through another break-up with him. We both want this to work. He tells me to trust him and I tell him to have faith in our relationship. His school keeps him very occupied, but he still manages to call me everyday. If he can’t call me because he’s studying or finishing up a project, he sends a text. I do the same. We’re best friends but we both have a problem. Although we love each other very much, we both have trust issues. How can we deal with this? How can I deal with this? I know that he’s trying his best and he knows that I’m trying as well. Little arguments that have come about have been because either he or I revive the past. Most of the time, it’s him. Although we have great memories, most of our relationship back then consisted of intensive arguments. How can we get pass this?

Thank you for your time April!

[cg1984]

Thanks April!

I’m not actually putting my life on hold. I have been dating and it gets overrated. I don’t dwell on this but the ex-girlfriend thing upsets me. I’ve been concentrating on myself lately. This matter is in the back on my head and it bothers me from time to time. You think I should accept him for who his is… but why would a person keep in touch with their exes? I just don’t understand that!!!

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