danielc

[danielc]

Thank you. This advice is just a reinforcement on what I was already thinking.
As long as I can’t drive, I can’t do anything to make her feel better.
I’ll just have to get over the pain of having to tell her, “There’s nothing I can do,” every time she tells me that she’s tired of not seeing me.

[danielc]

I’m not trying to fix her past.
I know I can’t marry her yet, we already know when we want to.. The same day we started dating in the year after she turns 18, so essentially, January 17, 2013.
I’m not promising her crazy things. I promise her that I will always love her, always be here for her, that I will never give up on her, no matter what.
She’s beginning to show signs of starting her period btw, whew..
But,
The only thing that concerns me is how awful she feels all the time when we’re apart.
I want to do anything I can to make that less painful for her.
Hormones or no, our level of attachment is far beyond our age.
I essentially can’t be there for her unless I’m in person. She shuts me out when I text/call her..at least about anything that upsets her/makes her mad.
She does so well sometimes, and others she doesn’t know what to do.
My explanation of her past was simply to show you how horrible she’s had it in the past.
I want absolutely nothing but the best for her, but I can’t give her the best.
I sometimes wonder how much of a role the fact that she’s bipolar has to do with things..
The preceding posts have been all details with one question. I don’t feel my question has been answered.
So this is my question:
What can I do to make it less hard on my girlfriend that we don’t see each other often?

[danielc]

So essentially you’re saying there’s nothing I can do?
The problems from her past have been gotten over and let go, my concern with them is that she’s never been happy..and the first few weeks that we were together she was, until she began to realize that she needed me and we weren’t going to be able to be together that much.
And..recently, on top of all that, we’ve been scared out of our whits because she’s been showing signs of pregnancy..the two tests have both been negative, but she’s a day late on her period..and she’s usually as regular as a calendar. 😕
I refuse to let this get the best of us..any of this. I’m not letting her go ever.
I just want to make it easier on her until August.
If she’s being selfish, no matter. She’s used to seeing her bf’s whenever. On top of not seeing me much, I was her first and she was mine, and overall I matter to her more than anyone else has ever. I was the first person she ever cried over..and only because we can’t be together. I just want to make it easier for her. I can handle it, I’m a strong person. What I can’t handle is seeing her miserable.

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