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  • in reply to: Really, really need relationship advice [16…] #16598
    cyrix
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    The whole point of a relationship is for companionship and so you don’t have to spend time alone through life, so when your other half leaves, you lose most of that. But, if the two of you have decided to stay together keep the communication alive, send reminders to each other why you fell in love in the first place and why you decided to stay together across the distance.

    -Keep in Contact

    In today’s modern age keeping in touch is almost too easy. We have cell phones, email, instant messaging and social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace to stay in contact with friends and family across long distances. So saying “I Miss You” can be done multiple types of ways through different devices.

    But, don’t overwhelm the other person with 20 “I Miss You” posts on their Facebook page in one day. This will most likely start pushing the other person away as they may start to feel smothered even with you far away, which is the opposite of what you want to do. Keep the “I Miss You” messages to a minimum and talk to each other the same way that you did before you parted.

    -Care Package

    You can send all of the cute messages and posts that you would like on the Internet and cell phones, but nothing beats getting something through the mail still. For a very special “I Miss You” put together a care package with the other person’s favorite stuff or items that only the two of you know why they are important. You can also send a care package just because or for one of the many holidays during the year.

    Cards with printed out pictures of friends and family also say “I Miss You” and the pictures will tell the other person that you understand that you are not the only thing that they may miss since they left.

    -Plan a Visit

    If you are able to, plan a trip for the person back home to come out and see you. This will give you both something to look forward to and being able to see each other will be a refresher as to why the two of you are still in a relationship. Of course, it could also be a time to realize that the person who you were with before has changed into a different person since you have been apart. So a visit can also be a good time for the two of you to sit down and talk about whether your long distance relationship should continue.

    in reply to: Advice #16409
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    What Can you do To Get your Ex Girlfriend Back

    Last time, we talked about how to get your boyfriend back. This time we’re gonna discuss the opposite.

    Most people find themselves asking “What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back” following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

    This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

    The first main strategy to answer the question about “what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back” is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

    Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

    The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

    Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

    Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

    Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don’t over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things.

    And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out “what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back”. Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

    in reply to: Need advice!!!! #15877
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    Did you just experience a break up? Are you wondering how to go get an ex back? Almost nearly every adult as experienced some kind of a break up, and most just work on moving on rather than looking for a way to get an ex back. But if you are over playing the victim and want to put some work in to get an ex back, then there are options for you. Everyone deals with breakup, but does break up simply mean that you cannot get back together with your ex?

    The fact is, 90 percent of the time there is no reason why you cannot get an ex back after a break up, providing that you know what steps are necessary to win your ex back. The first step in learning how to get an ex back is to determine what exactly happened that caused the break up. Even though you cannot go back into the past, and you cannot change what happened, you can learn from the mistakes that were made and you can try to learn and grow from the experiences.

    The break up may have occurred because of a single event, or it may have occurred from behaviors that your ex could not deal with anymore. No matter what the reason was that led to the breakup, you need to get the specifics figured out so that you can deal with the situation if it should never come up again. You can get an ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work on a long term basis, you need to figure out what went wrong in the first place.

    The next step in the process is to ensure that you are not coming off as a needy person. Everyone will feel like they cannot live without their ex, but there is no point in making this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

    Trying to get back at your ex, or trying to make your ex jealous is not a good way to operate. In fact, these are some of the worst things that you can possibly do, because it will show your ex that he or she should simply move on because you already have. While you do want your ex to see that you’re doing ok, you do not want it to inspire him or her to completely move on if your ideal scenario is to get back together. Let your ex see how strong and self confident you are, and they will feel inspired to get back together with you.

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