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[fakefiancee]

As you suggested, I ordered the book ‘Date out of your League” (which hasn’t arrived yet), but I got to thinking. I really don’t want to date out of my league. I don’t want a 9 or a 10. Remember the old song ‘When you’re in love with a beautiful woman, you watch your…….”

What I really want is someone who shares my interests, my likes and dislikes, as much as possible. My ‘fiancee’ and I are on opposite sides of politics, our ideal vacation spots are complete opposites. We have the same taste in movies (that’s about all I can think of). last weekend I decided I should go to a location where there were things I was interested in, and hang out. I lasted about 30 minutes, and drove home. All the women were with their husbands and kids, and I really have a hard time doing recreational things by myself. It bores me to death to be there by myself (a self defeating situation).

Any suggestions?

[fakefiancee]

Before she left me and moved to Maryland (when I still thought she was coming back), she said “I know after I’m gone, you’ll probably get back on the dating website (were I met her), and I want you to know it’s o.k. with me.” I freaked out. After she was in Marylnad (but before I knew she was not moving back) I asked “How could you say such a thing?” She said “Well I was the one leaving you, and I thought I owed you that freedom if you wanted to take it.”

About 3 months later, if I didn’t answer the phone on the first ring, or missed a call from her, she would ask in this sticky sweet voice “Have you been on a date?”, “I’ll bet you’ve been on a date, haven’t you?” “Have you got a date?” Then one Saturday when I went 40 miles to get work done on my car and run other errands where I use to live for 8 years, she called. And since I wasn’t back home yet, she started asking in that same sticky sweet voice “You’re not home yet? Where have you been? Where have you been?”

I got so ticked off, I DID sign up on an obscure dating website. Within 2 hours 3 women had written. I met all 3 within the same week, two lunch dates and one dinner date. I then decided that was 3 too many! One wanted to be my mother and social secretary. One had an 18 year old son who THOUGHT he was her mother (wanted to come on the lunch date). And one that went great. For a little less than a week. The day after our dinner date, she asked me to come over the next Saturday to her place for dinner and bring a movie I had mentioned. She then called me Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and everything was good. Then I wake up to an email sent 2 hours after our last conversation that said “My life is crazy, I’m freaking out, and our lifestyles are different. I’m sorry.”

I know my ‘fiancee’ isn’t a flawless diamond. She’s a semi-precious stone at best. But I ask myself “Why throw away a semi-precious stone looking for a diamond in dumpsters and landfills, when one might not be there?”

Jim

P.S. I ordered the book you suggested.

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