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[firstandlast_name]

April,

Thank you for the advice. The problem with this is I buy her lingerie, jewelry, diamonds, but not so much on the flowers side. Everytime I get her jewelry, she complains bc then she feels compelled to give me sex when she doesnt want to. She wont wear the lingerie I have gotten her because she doesnt want it to lead to sex. And she wont kiss me because she doesnt want it to lead to sex. I have even been trying to get just a massage from her for the past 3 months and she wont do that either even when I massage her atleast once a week. I work 45-50 hrs a week and when I get home I cook dinner every night, clean up the dishes, play with the kiddos till its their bedtime, and on the weekends I clean the house. She works sat, sun, and mondays, goes to school (is currently on break) but is only taking one class a semester. She is responsible for laundry and making sure the bills get paid on time. So I do not think it is stress on her part. I am at a complete loss here. I dont think she is cheating on me, all though it is possible bc I dont ever check her phone, email, or anything. Her last OB appointment, I went with her and asked her doc about it, and he said that he wasnt going to do anything about it. Since this has been going on for over 5 years, I do not know how much more of this I can stand. I will deffinately buy your book, and see if it give me any insight as I know for a fact that she won’t read it. I really do love her, but I can’t handle the lack of affection any longer. I would bring up couples counceling but we cant afford it currently, and I really do not want a divorce because I couldnt handle not seeing my kids everyday.

Thank you for your help!

[firstandlast_name]

when i was single years ago, I was the same way as him. I guarantee that him and this girl have been in a relationship the whole time. He finally changed his status because she was telling him it was wrong for it to still say single. He is very good at “spitting game” and some men (as i used to be) has no regard for others feelings but his own. I highly recommend to move on and forget him. When a guy seems too perfect and is as off an on as he is, there is a good chance he is in a relationship and just wanted to get some side action. It is kind of like a game. Im sorry that this happened to you, and i hope you have much better luck with the next guy you date.

[firstandlast_name]

I had a cousin in the same position. She went back to the first guy and he beat their kid pretty badly. After about 6 months they got back together again after his promises of change, yet he again became abusive to her. I agree he has changed, but the change is not permanent. it will probably only last a month or so if that long. And who cares if you hurt him, he hurt you repeatedly didn’t he? He lost his chance with you, follow your heart.

[firstandlast_name]

Have you tried talking about it openly with out hinting at it? Just tell her that you like her a lot and would love for this relationship to progress into something more serious but you feel she doesn’t to by the lack of affection. Also explain that you understand taking things slow and ask her at what rate does she feel comfortable at progressing.

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