[goldengun]

If April’s fine advice hasn’t convinced you, at least talk to a doctor.

And stop being so insecure… just come straight out with it exactly like you typed here. They are NOT going to be surprised by what you say anymore than a mechanic would be surprised that you tell them your car is making an “abnormal” noise. It’s their job.

Anyway, from my experience… sex is messy, but some women don’t mind it… and, some women love it 🙂 You just ran into a bad apple.

Keep your chin up man.

[goldengun]

Reading your post gave me shivers. Your situation is sadly not AS unusual as you may think it is. I know, because I was exactly like you at one point… I was always an awkward youngster but I was a late bloomer. I didn’t lose my virginity until my twenties also, and I know now that I’m not the only one… I remember feeling like you.

My best advice is… fake it till you make it. Seriously, don’t think you are somehow messed up because you are a virgin. The truth is, just be confident about everything you do. And be fun and do everything to the best of your ability and focus on making a woman feel beautiful in the moment. You can’t go wrong.

I remember when I was younger, I dreamed about what it must be like to somehow magically land one of those hot pretty party girls… that date all the hot popular guys etc. I remember the first time I actually slept with one of these types of girls… the thought crossed my mind that she might find me totally inadequate… but nevertheless I applied the same confidence I always have. And I just did exactly what I wanted… which was to make sure I focused on her and made her feel so beautiful. The end result… she couldn’t believe how badly she wanted me… again and again.

What i’m trying to say here is… i feel for you. It’s not cool especially as a man to admit you have insecurities. But just don’t get too drunk, don’t get caught up thinking too much or too little, and focus on the woman and make her feel wonderful.

You gotta get rid of the feeling that you are a ‘victim’ of virginity… just remember, the first girl you sleep with won’t have any idea you’re a virgin, and you won’t have any idea how many times she’s had sex either. So in some ways you are both virgins to eachother… so don’t let it bother you.

As for the rest of your questions, they are just too many to answer. But dont’ worry, just have fun, and be confident. Meet lots of women, and take care of them… and they will literally tell you when they want you… women won’t stick around you longer than they want to. So if any women ‘lingers’ around you… talk her up.

If she REALLY is into you… women typically stand closer to you than if they are not interested… and in my opinion, they have a certain look in their eyes… you’ll know it. Good luck man.

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