Hey Coffeeman, the thing that’s bringing you down is your subconscious mind. Your subconscious thoughts and beliefs. You’ve got to control your conscious mind and start believing positively. You will not be successful if you’re always telling yourself, “I’m afraid to date”, “I’m afraid girls will ridicule me”, “I get nervous talking to women”, “I don’t know what to talk about”, etc…
All these negative thoughts/beliefs are eating you up and destroy any chance of success. In order to be successful with women or anything you do in life is BELIEVE in yourself and fill up your conscious mind with positive thoughts and beliefs and act on them. You’ve got to start saying to yourself things like, “I will smile to all women”, “I will use eye contact when I speak to a woman”, “I will stand up straight and use my body language to my advantage”, “I will listen to what women say”, “I will not be afraid of rejection”, “I will learn from all my experiences with women” etc…
If you noticed I used “I will” when thinking positively and you’ve got to fill those beliefs in your conscious mind so they will eventually transfer to your subconscious mind and eventually all your fears will be gone.
April and RBS give great advice and your days of letting fear ruin your life are over. I used to be that lonely, shy, scared of rejection type of guy. It wasn’t until I figured out that my subconscious thoughts were ruining me. Conquer your subconscious mind with all those positive beliefs and positive experiences with women and eventually you will be a natural.
