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[freckles]

Well after thinking about it all day yesterday, I decided to tell him as soon as I saw him. You’re right, that would have been very selfish and I would have felt really bad waiting to tell him–I felt bad enough not telling him on the phone and waiting to tell him in person.
I was worried because he had spent a week planning a romantic night and I didn’t want to disappoint him. But as I got there I quickly realized that wasn’t important at all. We talked about it all night and he took it much better than I thought he would (although still very stressed out) and we’re going to try to figure out what to do together. Neither of us slept because we were too anxious about it. I’m sure we’re going to have many more sleepless nights, though. This is going to be very difficult for both of us. Distance and our jobs being huge factors.
Thanks for the advice 😳

[freckles]

I think it’s both as well. I truly believe you need to ‘follow the signs’ when dating. If it seems the world is trying to keep you apart, listen to it. If it seems that everything seems to ‘opening up’ for you, you need to pay attention. But in the end, if one of you decide it’s just not right, you or they make a choice on whether or not to stay in the relationship and let it grow.

[freckles]

Sounds like FBI agent wins. Many of your pros for the counsellor are also cons.
My brother-in-law is an FBI agent and he is thrilled to be off the field finally and into a desk-job. He is still saving lives and making a difference. Depends on how you look at it. Good luck!

[freckles]

How did you get around to having sex? Did you have a date at least? Or did you just get right into it?

I hate to say it, but I think he maybe was just being polite about the lunch. I’d just continue to be cool/playful/flirty with him, but don’t ask him about lunch and don’t ask to see him again. If he’s interested, he would’ve shown up or at least let you know out of respect that he wasn’t going to be able to make it. Something *could* have happened that prevented him from being there, but otherwise, assume he’s not interested. If he is, he’ll come to your apartment asking for something when he’s ready. In the meantime, move on. 😉

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