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    Hi. I dated someone for 6 years and we were madly in love and in sync with one another. I trusted everything he said, felt safest when with him, and loved every part of him. We never took breaks, never were unfaithful – just a true blue fairytale. One day, he talked about moving to where his family lives, across the country obviously in another state. We looked at houses and for jobs there together. One day, he said he was doing some serious job hunting there and would be back in 2 weeks. Well – he never came back. He broke up with me over the phone in fact. I was beyond shocked, depressed, confused. It’s been 3 years since him and I don’t think a SINGLE day goes by he doesn’t cross my mind. I still think the world of him. A part of me still loves him. I hear from him now and then, or I’ll text him randomly. We mostly reminisce, and laugh and smile about past times. We know we aren’t getting back together.
    I have a boyfriend now of 1-1/2 years and we live together. He is a great guy and I admire a lot about him. I love him very much. I feel I can relate to you on some level. I agree with the post before mine – seems your ex only professes his love and want to be with you when you get engaged, married, have a baby. That is COMPLETELY disrespectful of him. If he truly cared about you – he WOULD NOT do that. A baby and a husband and he wants to muddle it up? That’s awful! If he cared, he’d want your family to work out, your daughter to be happy, your marriage to be forever. He missed his chance! In my opinion, you gave him a chance when you left your husband before and went back to him, then he put the brakes on and changed his mind more or less and made up some excuse why you two couldn’t be married. I think you, your husband, and your now family deserve better. I understand what it’s like to love the ex, to think about the good times. Trust me, I do. But this guy had his chance and knows he missed it. It’s not like you’re dating someone else – you’re actually married to them – bound together by God. I think it’s time you both moved on. Not trying to be harsh, just trying to help <3

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