Hi April!
I want to thank you again for your responses. They are on point and very informative .
There is something else I wanted to get your advice on…
To elaborate, I am use to dating men who take the initiative/lead (I guess you can call them Alphas?), while my current boyfriend, for the most part, usually lets me take the lead and follows along (I guess you call that Beta behavior?). However, he does follow through when we make plans or takes the initiative every now and again.
In addition, he tends to make plans at the last moment, such as when we will see each other next, while I would prefer to plan ahead. I should point out that I do understand that his tendency to plan at the last minute is partly due to his laid-back nature and the type of job he is in.
He is a contractor, so he takes on temporary jobs and at times, might not know when he might get the next one. Once he does find a job, only then will he start to think about our schedule (when we will see each other next and the frequency of the visits).
The take away question from this all would be, how can I cope with these elements in our relationship so I don’t become needy/doubtful of it?
As a side note: I am pretty good about keeping myself busy with work, friends, and my own hobbies, but my thoughts do wander frequently to him as well as subjects like the ones I have stated above.
Thank you.
